Most of us who consider ourselves queer by choice have been asked some or all of the questions on this FAQ, sometimes in an angry tone by those who don't want to accept the fact that not all queer people share the same experiences or beliefs, and other times in a tone of honest inquiry by people who genuinely want to understand queer by choice people better but to whom the phrase "queer by choice" is a very new and foreign concept. This FAQ and this website in general were built in order to save all queer by choice people some of the trouble of answering these questions over and over. If you learn anything new from any of the answers given here, then please help us to educate others by telling others what you learned from this site.
Did you choose to start feeling same-sex attraction or just choose to start acting upon it?
When you say you "chose" it, do you just mean it's a product of your social environment?
How can feelings ever be chosen?
Do you mean you can just look at someone and decide whether to be attracted to them?
What is an "indirect choice"?
Hasn't queerness been proven to be genetic?
Could you choose to turn hetero if you wanted to?
Does saying queerness can be chosen encourage parents to try to raise their children to be hetero?
Why would you want to be queer in such a homophobic world?
Does the idea of choice encourage homophobes to say that queers don't deserve equal rights?
What is the difference between essentialist and social constructionist techniques for fighting homophobia?
Are you choosing to go against nature?
Why don't you just keep quiet about having made a choice?