Our attempts to compile a list of safe chapters have been complicated by interference from PFLAG National, whose Executive Director sent a letter to all the chapters "suggesting" that they not respond to any correspondence from us or communicate with us in any way. We had only finished contacting all the chapters in two states before this letter was issued, and we feel certain that we could have compiled a far more complete list of supportive chapters if PFLAG National had not interfered. Most chapters did respond supportively but many were waiting until their next board meeting to discuss our submission form before filling it out—and then the letter arrived. Some chapters even removed themselves from the list after receiving communications from PFLAG National. It is extremely unfortunate that PFLAG National does not choose to be more supportive of queer by choice people's right to know that they can count on their local chapters to show respect for their self-definitions. Nonetheless, some chapters did sign up for our list before the letter from National arrived, and we continue to invite other chapters to sign up for the list now.
If you are a queer by choice person seeking support from your local PFLAG chapter and you don't see your chapter on the list above, you may want to go to PFLAG National's PFLAG Chapter Directory and find your chapter's contact information. Let them know that you're in their area, and need to know you can count on them to treat your beliefs with respect. Also, there is an extremely wide variety of attitudes among PFLAG leaders, so if you get a negative response from one chapter leader there may still be others in your chapter who will support you and encourage the unsupportive members to change their attitudes. Keep trying, and if you receive a negative reaction, please consider filling out our Complaint Form so we can let others know about the problem. We may also be able to provide you with additional resources for changing your chapter leaders' attitudes. The odds are extremely good that we've had contact with your chapter in the past, and we may know of a supportive person in your area who can help convince the current chapter leaders to change their attitudes.
If you are a PFLAG member and would like to submit your chapter to be included on this list, please fill out our submission form.