1. For People Attracted to Men (http://www.queerbychoice.com/men.html)
For People Attracted to Men Androphile Androsexual Androtrope Gynominetophile (Attracted to men who dress as women) Hesexual Man-lover Masculosexual See also: For men attracted to men For women attracted to men For people attracted to the same sex For pe...
2. "Gay Gene" Critique Links (http://www.queerbychoice.com/gaygenelinks.html)
Gay Gene Critique Links Biology, My Ass by Karla Mantilla, from the lesbian-feminist journal off our backs: a women's news journal, 1999. Of course it's a choice how could it not be? Rejecting the Gay Brain (and Choosing Homosexuality) by queer writer Jo...
3. Little Joe (http://www.queerbychoice.com/joe.html)
Little Joe a.k.a. velvet lips silk throat Born: August 23, 1926 Hometown: Brooklyn, New York Current Residence: Jacksonville, Florida, USA 7/25/99: Let me introduce myself. I imagine that I will be the oldest on the list. I was born August 23, 1926 in Br...
4. Kirsten Kingdon Orders PFLAG Members Not to Talk to Us! (http://www.queerbychoice.com/letter.html)
Kirsten Kingdon Orders PFLAG Members Not to Talk to Us! The following is the text of a letter sent to every PFLAG chapter on August 22, 2000, by Kirsten Kingdon, Executive Director of PFLAG National. All text, underlining and emphasis is exactly as it ap...
5. Why don't you just keep quiet about having made a choice? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/keepquiet.html)
Why don't you just keep quiet about having made a choice? Fighting for queer rights goes beyond just fighting for legal recognition of same-sex marriage or allowing openly gay people in the military. Fighting for queer rights also means fighting for the ...
6. Queer by Choice FAQ (http://www.queerbychoice.com/faq.html)
Choice FAQ Most of us who consider ourselves queer by choice have been asked some or all of the questions on this FAQ, sometimes in an angry tone by those who don't want to accept the fact that not all queer people share the same experiences or beliefs, ...
7. PFLAG National's Statement of Support (http://www.queerbychoice.com/quarterly.html)
PFLAG National's Statement of Support The following supportive statement was included in PFLAG National's quarterly affiliate mailing, sent out to the chapters the week of September 3, 2000. It was followed by a selection of quotes from various chapters'...
8. Why would you want to be queer? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/why.html)
Why would you want to be queer in such a homophobic world? You know, there's more to queerness than being discriminated against. Ask your queer friends if they want to turn hetero the odds are that most of them don't. Whatever their reasons for wanting t...
9. For Masculine Women (http://www.queerbychoice.com/masculinewomen.html)
For Masculine Women 'Almah (Ancient Hebrew word variously translated as virgin, she who refuses to marry, or tomboy ) Aionolit (Ancient Hebrew word for masculine woman or lesbian ) Amazon (In ancient Greek, a legendary woman warrior; also refers to a myt...
10. 404 Not Found (http://www.queerbychoice.com/error404.html)
Sexual Preferences Change . . . and so does the Internet. Once upon a time, the file you just requested may well have been a heterosexual file, raising 2.5 children in a cold foggy suburb of GoodHousekeeping.com. Later, when it got older and wiser and ch...
11. Mike Harrison (http://www.queerbychoice.com/mike.html)
Mike Harrison Nickname: Gecko Born: May 24, 1977 3/9/01: [Do I believe ex-gay groups like NARTH can help queer people choose to be straight?] Sure! However, do I support a discreetly Christian group's mission of spreading intolerance and misinformation? ...
12. Quotes from Safe PFLAG Chapters (http://www.queerbychoice.com/safequotes.html)
Quotes from Safe PFLAG Chapters All of the quotes below are taken from personal email correspondence that PFLAG chapters sent to us in response to an inquiry from Queerchoice list founder Gayle Madwin which asked, in part: I'm wondering if you have any k...
13. David Migicovsky (http://www.queerbychoice.com/david.html)
David Migicovsky 5/23/99: One thing I've discovered (I'm a writer as well) is how little attention most readers pay to nuances. I can't tell you how many on-line arguments I've had with people who think there's no difference between saying Mary admitted ...
14. Andrew Carroll (http://www.queerbychoice.com/andrew.html)
Andrew Carroll Nicknames: Alternating Current, Flamin' Queen Jennifer Born: June 2, 1976 Current Residence: Vancouver, British Columbia 4/17/00: hey there! i'm new to the list and thought i'd introduce myself. i'm a 23 y.o. queer boy, and i'm delighted t...
15. Alissa (http://www.queerbychoice.com/alissa.html)
Alissa Born: 1981 Current Residence: Bellingham, Washington, USA 2/5/00: A friend in high school told me her liasion with a married couple she knew. And suddenly it dawned on me in the strangest way that I could be gay. That's the simple version of it. I...
16. Lesbian-Feminist Links (http://www.queerbychoice.com/lesfemlinks.html)
Lesbian-Feminist Links 1970s Lesbian Feminism. The lesbian-feminist movement in the 1970s was not just a group of women who happened to be both lesbians and feminists on the contrary, it was a group of women who asserted that their lesbianism was a resul...
17. The Implications of "Gay Gene" Research for Queer by Choice People (http://www.queerbychoice.com/gaygene.html)
The Implications of Gay Gene Studies for Queer by Choice People Acknowledging that some of us have chosen our sexual preferences does not require us to disprove any gay gene studies. None of the studies which have gained worldwide attention over the past...
18. Addressing Queer by Choice Concerns Will Help Other Queer People Too (http://www.queerbychoice.com/helpothers.html)
Addressing Queer by Choice Concerns Will Help Other Queer People Too Imagine that you know of a PFLAG chapter where all the officers and the most active members are heterosexuals who not only don't have any children who've come out to them as being lesbi...
19. Social Constructionist History Links (http://www.queerbychoice.com/constructionlinks.html)
Social ContructionistHistory LinksSocial Constructionism a quick definition by Andrew Wikholm of gayhistory.com"Is There a Straight Gene?" by Daryl Croke, from Workers' Liberty Australia Newsletter, October 2000 Interview with David Halperin by Laurel M. ...
20. Nick P (http://www.queerbychoice.com/nick.html)
Nick P Nicknames: NTG (in Halls at University - short for Nick The Greek, frighteningly original) Nick Beard (Drama Department - because I used to have a beard) Roxy (Alternate Gender name) Laa Laa (Teletubby name) Panicky Rap Opus (Anagram name) Born: 7...
21. Jayelle Lukash (http://www.queerbychoice.com/jayelle.html)
Jayelle Lukash Nickname: Jae Craft Name: Violet Stormchaser Born: March 11, 1974 Current Residence: Orlando, Florida, USA 4/19/00: I'm Bisexual, and I don't think I chose that. However, as a Bisexual person, choice IS my sexual orientation. I can suppres...
22. PFLAG Chapters' Guest Lecturers (http://www.queerbychoice.com/unsafelecturers.html)
PFLAG Chapters' Guest Lecturers Imagine if you firmly believed you were born gay and all the people in charge of your local PFLAG chapter did not believe it was possible to be born gay. Suppose that they invited a guest speaker to present evidence that a...
23. Letter from Ron Gold (http://www.queerbychoice.com/rongold.html)
Letter from Ron Gold Ron Gold was one of the five original founders of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force in the USA, and he was the driving force behind the movement that got the American Psychiatric Association to remove homosexuality from its lis...
24. For People Attracted to the "Opposite" Sex (http://www.queerbychoice.com/oppositesex.html)
For People Attracted to the Opposite Sex Adventurous heterosexual (Someone who considers themself heterosexual but experiments with nontraditional sexual activities and/or gender roles) Amative lover (Used by Walt Whitman) Breeder Ego-dystonic heterosexu...
25. Submit Your PFLAG Chapter for Inclusion on Our Safe Chapters List (http://www.queerbychoice.com/safeform.html)
Submit a PFLAG Chapter for Inclusion on Our Safe Chapters List This form should be filled out only by a current and active member of the PFLAG chapter being submitted. We are in the process of contacting PFLAG chapters to invite their comments. Location ...
26. Reasons to Choose a Label (http://www.queerbychoice.com/labelreasons.html)
Reasons to Choose or Not Choose a Label Choosing a label for your sexual orientation can be agonizing and unproductive, but it can be much less so if you're clear in your mind about why you're choosing one at all. Hopefully, your reason has something to ...
27. Imp (http://www.queerbychoice.com/imp.html)
Imp Owner of the Howl website Nickname: Dreamer Born: December 10, 1984 Current residence: Edinburgh, Scotland, U.K. 4/10/01: Hey, I ve been largely inactive (actually that s a lie I ve been totally inactive) on this list since I joined a couple months o...
28. Frank Aqueno (http://www.queerbychoice.com/frank.html)
Frank Aqueno Owner of a Queer by Choice Website Has spoken about choosing to be queer on The Donahue Show and CNBC's Real Personal Born: November 7, 1942 Current Residence: New Orleans, Louisiana, USA As quoted (under the name of Henry Yount ) in Vera Wh...
29. Proud2Bsissy (http://www.queerbychoice.com/proud2bsissy.html)
Proud2Bsissy 4/28/00: This question [of universal bisexuality] makes sense only if we assume that there are just two strictly separated genders. What about places where there are three or more genders (as in India where I am from)? Why segregate genders ...
30. Unsafe PFLAG Link Pages (http://www.queerbychoice.com/unsafelinks.html)
PFLAG Chapters' Link Pages Imagine that you firmly believe you were born gay, and you're thinking of coming out to your parents. You're thinking of giving them the website address for your local PFLAG chapter, so you check out the website to get an idea ...
31. For Men Attracted to Women (http://www.queerbychoice.com/men2wom.html)
For Men Attracted to Women Dioning (Invented by Karl Heinrich Ulrichs in the mid-1800s) Dyke tyke (A heterosexual man, usually young, who admires or likes to hang out with dykes; the male equivalent of a fag hag ) Makaho (Hausa African word literally mea...
32. Why Are We Focusing on PFLAG with an Issue That Concerns the Whole Movement? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/aquenoparody.html)
Why Are We Focusing on PFLAG with an Issue That Concerns the Whole Movement? On May 24, 2000, after nearly eight months of correspondence between us and PFLAG National, with no progress evident except a vague reassurance that our concerns had been forwar...
33. Queer Theory Links (http://www.queerbychoice.com/qtheorylinks.html)
Queer Theory Links Queer Theory from theory.org.uk. Many people mistakenly believe that the term queer theory is just a synonym for gay lesbian studies. In reality, queer theory is a very specific subset of gay lesbian studies which is based, as this web...
34. How can feelings ever be chosen? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/feelings.html)
How can feelings ever be chosen? People choose their feelings all the time. A person who is sad but who knows they need to move on with their life will often force themself to smile and think positive thoughts and the act of doing so will gradually make ...
35. Gabriel Hermelin (http://www.queerbychoice.com/gabriel.html)
Gabriel Hermelin Nickname: Gabby Born: Summer 1966 Current Residence: Fort Lauderdale, Florida, USA 7/29/01: I am a graduate student, studying conflict analysis and resolution, with a specialization in college student personnel administration. I believe ...
36. When you say you "chose" it, do you just mean it's a product of your social environment? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/environment.html)
When you say you chose it, do you just mean it's a product of your social environment? No. The word choice indicates an element of free will, and those of us who use the word choice to describe our experience realize this and use the word deliberately. A...
38. For Women Attracted to Women (http://www.queerbychoice.com/wom2wom.html)
For Women Attracted to Women Amy-john Androdyke (Short for androgynous dyke ) Bagbaru (Zande African term referring to either of two women in a lesbian marriage in which one woman assumed the role of husband and the other that of wife ) Bull (Short for b...
39. León Hunter-Boyd (http://www.queerbychoice.com/leon.html)
León Hunter-Boyd Born: July 27, 1974 Current Residence: Madrid, Spain 6/22/00: I've been on this mailing list for a long time and had, up until now, not posted a profile. Recently, I posted a message about my choice. It has taken me a while to develop my...
40. Submit a Complaint About an Unsafe PFLAG Chapter (http://www.queerbychoice.com/unsafeform.html)
Submit a Complaint About an Unsafe PFLAG Chapter Regardless of what you believe about the causes of sexual preference, if you feel that a PFLAG chapter has not shown adequate respect for your beliefs, we can provide you with a wide variety of resources f...
41. Bob Fink (http://www.queerbychoice.com/bob.html)
Bob Fink Current Residence: Manhattan's East Village, New York, USA 7/2/00: I believe that human beings, including myself, have a range of capacities, and being turned on by what is not necessarily an imprint is certainly one of them. If anyone told me t...
42. For Women Attracted to Men (http://www.queerbychoice.com/wom2men.html)
For Women Attracted to Men Dioningin (Invented by Karl Heinrich Ulrichs in the mid-1800s) Fag hag (A heterosexual woman who admires or likes to hang out with gay men; the male equivalent is dyke tyke ) Man-identified woman (Pejorative term invented by th...
43. For Genderbending or Genderbreaking People (http://www.queerbychoice.com/genderbend.html)
For Genderbending or Genderbreaking People Ambigendered Androgyne Arenotelicon (Used in the Physiologus, an anonymous book of the early Renaissance, to describe hyenas, which at that time were believed to change their sex every year. This word was dredge...
44. Jack Rudd (http://www.queerbychoice.com/jack.html)
Jack Rudd President of the unofficial Jackie Woodburne Fan Club Former President of the Cambridge University Diplomacy Society Born: 13 May 1979 Current Residence: Cambridge, U.K. 5/18/99: I'll introduce myself as well... I'm a 20-year-old second year ma...
45. Liz Highleyman (http://www.queerbychoice.com/liz.html)
Liz Highleyman Current Residence: San Francisco, California, USA 7/19/99: I'm delighted to have heard of this list through the QSTUDY list. I have been active in queer politics -- especially arguing in favor of social constructionist and pro-sex-radical ...
47. The QBC-Families Mailing List (http://www.queerbychoice.com/qbc-families.html)
QBC-Families is a tiny, brand new discussion list designed to provide support for the families of queer by choice people in other words, the families of lesbian, gay, transgendered and bisexual people who consider their sexual orientations and/or gender ...
48. Niklas Olaison (http://www.queerbychoice.com/niklas.html)
Niklas Olaison Nickname: Furball Born: 1968 Current Residence: Stockholm, Sweden http://www.ideh.su.se/forskning/NiklasOlaison.html Back to Queerchoice Member Profiles Add or Change Your Queerchoice Member Profile Back to the QueerByChoice.com Homepage Q...
49. Did you choose to start feeling same-sex attraction or just choose to start acting upon it? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/feeloract.html)
Did you choose to start feeling same-sex attraction or just choose to start acting upon it? People who believe they only chose to start acting upon same-sex attraction do not usually consider themselves queer by choice. Those of us who do consider oursel...
50. Contact Info & Hyperlink Logos (http://www.queerbychoice.com/linklogos.html)
Contact Info Hyperlink Logos To contact Gayle Madwin, the owner of QueerByChoice.com, send email to: or on AOL Instant Messenger, look for Gayle Madwin's AIM name (usually online on weekends only): QBC 101 To link to us from your own website, feel free t...
51. For Feminine Men (http://www.queerbychoice.com/femininemen.html)
For Feminine Men Alice Antiman Betty Bicha Bitch Boi Bone smuggler Charlotte Ann Ethel Evirationist (19th century term meaning dispossessing manhood ) Galboy Gentlemiss Gina la salsa Girlboy Gladys Handbag boy Kathoey (Thai word for a hermaphrodite, cros...
52. Our Proposed New National PFLAG Position Statement on Choice (http://www.queerbychoice.com/whatwewant.html)
Our Proposed New PFLAG National Position Statement On May 24, 2000, after nearly eight months of correspondence between us and PFLAG National, we received this question from our primary contact there: In all of this, it is not clear to me exactly what yo...
53. Dann Hazel (http://www.queerbychoice.com/dann.html)
Dann Hazel Born: April 26, 1954 Current Residence: Charleston, South Carolina, USA 10/3/99: My October column, Go Make History, is up on my website at http://www.dannhazel.com. I'd love it if you'd drop by and have a read. A favor, too, if you please. My...
54. Frank Episale (http://www.queerbychoice.com/frank_e.html)
frank episale Owner of frank's foyer Born: February 24, 1973 in New Jersey, USA Current Residence: Brooklyn, New York, USA Member and Website Designer, Jovial Crew 4/28/00: hey all-- i don't want to burden any of you with countless pages of reading, but ...
55. PFLAG Chapters' Discussions (http://www.queerbychoice.com/meetings.html)
PFLAG Chapters' Discussions Not all people who consider our queerness a choice are able to accompany our parents to PFLAG meetings. Some of us may be unavailable at the time of the meetings, while others may be unable to face the prospect of witnessing h...
56. Lentrot (http://www.queerbychoice.com/lentrot.html)
Lentrot Born: 1973 Current Residence: Sweden 10/21/99: Hi! Just thought I'd better introduce myself. I'm a 26 year old male bisexual from Sweden. Or at least I think I am. Bisexual that is. I have just discovered that guys actually turn me on almost as m...
57. PFLAG Chapters Committed to Providing a Safe Environment for Queer by Choice People (http://www.queerbychoice.com/safechapters.html)
Safe PFLAG Chapters Our attempts to compile a list of safe chapters have been complicated by interference from PFLAG National, whose Executive Director sent a letter to all the chapters suggesting that they not respond to any correspondence from us or co...
58. Does saying queerness can be chosen encourange parents to try to raise their children to be hetero? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/hetchildren.html)
Does saying queerness can be chosen encourage parents to try to raise their children to be hetero? Does saying queerness is genetic stop them from trying? Do parents actually even care whether they can change their child's feelings, as long as they can c...
59. Gayle Madwin (http://www.queerbychoice.com/gayle.html)
Gayle Madwin Founder, QueerByChoice.com Founder, The Queerchoice Mailing List Owner of an online journal Expert on Gay Lesbian Relationships at AskMe.com (Five-star rating) Expert on Gay Lesbian Rights at AskMe.com (Five-star rating) Real Name: either Cy...
60. Timeline of Our PFLAG Protest (http://www.queerbychoice.com/timeline.html)
Timeline of our PFLAG Protest 1994 Longtime ACT UP and Queer Nation activist Frank Aqueno writes to PFLAG New Orleans offering to speak to the chapter about his experience of choosing to be queer. The chapter does not respond. Frank continues writing let...
61. Jo (http://www.queerbychoice.com/jo.html)
Jo Owner of an online journal Nickname: MoistGrrl Born: 19 March 1972 Current Residence: Manchester, U.K. 10/25/01: Hi , I'm Jo , I'm 29 , a nurse from the north of England . I'm exclusively lesbian , although I used to consider myself bi (it's been 8 yr...
62. Jamie Heckert (http://www.queerbychoice.com/jamie.html)
Jamie Heckert Current Residence: Edinburgh, Scotland, U.K. 2/7/01: Hi all, I have recently joined the list and I suppose it is time to introduce myself. It is a good excuse to procrastinate on all the other things I should be working on at the moment. I ...
63. Qatten (http://www.queerbychoice.com/qatten.html)
Qatten Born: July 27, 1962 in Stockholm, Sweden Current Residence: Malmö, Sweden 11/11/00: I love your page about choice... of course it's a choice, and i'm sick and tired of the lesbigay community saying; look - it's genetical, we can't help it.. we did...
64. jerre(mia) (http://www.queerbychoice.com/jerre_mia.html)
jerre(mia) Born: June 1, 1980 Current Residence: Belgium 10/11/01: If i would never have felt the 'urge' - 'instinctively', to be a queer, i would not be one. So there is something to say about being 'born that way'. On the other hand, there is something...
65. Are You Capable of Same-Gender Attraction? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/capable.html)
Are You Capable of Same-Gender Attraction? We're not going to answer that question for you, but we can certainly ask some questions that may help clarify your own thoughts. Let's make it clear, however, that these questions are geared mostly toward decid...
66. For People Attracted to the Same Sex (http://www.queerbychoice.com/samesex.html)
For People Attracted to the Same Sex Absolute invert (Freudian term for people whose sexual objects are exclusively of their own sex ) Adhesive lover (Used by Walt Whitman) Agfay (Pig Latin for gay ) Bender Bent Brilliant Bulgarian Cheerful (Synonym for ...
67. Queer by Choice dot com (http://www.queerbychoice.com/index.html)
For the radicals, like the conservatives, homosexuality is definitely a choice.... They both react with disdain to those studies that seem to reflect a genetic source for homosexuality. Andrew Sullivan, The Politics of Homosexuality, New Republic, May 10...
68. Add or Change Your Queerchoice Member Profile (http://www.queerbychoice.com/qcform.html)
Add or Change Your Queerchoice Member Profile If you already have a member profile posted on this site, please go back to your current member profile and copy and paste it into the large scrolling text box under Question 6 in the form below. Then make wh...
69. The Evolutionary Unlikelihood of a "Gay Gene" (http://www.queerbychoice.com/evolution.html)
The Evolutionary Unlikelihood of a Gay Gene One major question for gay gene researchers to answer is why the gay gene hasn't been eliminated from existence by evolution. The conventional response to this question has been that gay people contribute enoug...
70. Reasons to Try or Not Try Same-Gender Sex (http://www.queerbychoice.com/sex.html)
Reasons to Try or Not Try Same-Gender Sex Whenever you make a major decision in life, the obvious questions to ask are What good will come of it if I do this? and What harm will come of it if I do this? So in the case of exploring same sex feelings, it w...
71. Todd (http://www.queerbychoice.com/todd.html)
Todd Nicknames: T:hod, Strawweight Born: 26 December 1979 Current Residence: Atlanta, Georgia, USA 6/20/01: While I think I was predisposed to NOT be attracted to females, I definitely chose to indulge in an attraction to males. I don't see much descrimi...
72. Are you choosing to go against nature? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/againstnature.html)
Are you choosing to go against nature? Against nature? Is that even possible? Doesn't the fact that we're capable of feeling a particular attraction automatically mean that it's within the range of natural possibilities? Most of us certainly don't feel t...
73. PFLAG National's Weekly Email Alert (http://www.queerbychoice.com/emailalert.html)
PFLAG National Mentions Us in Their Weekly Email Alert The statement below was the #2 item included in the weekly Email Alert from PFLAG National on January 21, 2000. PFLAG National never informed us that we were mentioned in the alert (we found out from...
74. Response from PFLAG New Orleans (http://www.queerbychoice.com/neworleans.html)
Response from PFLAG New Orleans On January 10, 2000, after six years of writing letters via both postal mail and email to PFLAG New Orleans about queer by choice issues without receiving one single reply, Frank Aqueno finally received the following reply...
75. Does the idea of choice encourage homophobes to say that queers don't deserve equal rights? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/homophobes.html)
Does the idea of choice encourage homophobes to say that queers don't deserve equal rights? Most people believe we should have the right to freely choose our religious beliefs without loss of other civil rights. Why shouldn't we have the same right to fr...
76. Quotes from Unsafe PFLAG Chapters (http://www.queerbychoice.com/unsafequotes.html)
Quotes from Unsafe PFLAG Chapters All of the quotes below are taken from personal email correspondence that PFLAG chapters sent to us in response to an inquiry from Queerchoice list founder Gayle Madwin which asked, in part: I'm wondering if you have any...
77. Reasons to Try or Not Try a Same-Gender Relationship (http://www.queerbychoice.com/relationship.html)
Reasons to Try or Not Try a Same-Gender Relationship As we explained on the Reasons to Try Same-Gender Sex page, whenever you make a major decision in life you should ask yourself the simple questions What good will come of it if I do this? and What harm...
78. Sociology & Psychology Queer Links (http://www.queerbychoice.com/sociolinks.html)
Sociology Psychology Queer Links A Sexual Orientation Worksheet by Ben Roe, and Using the Klein Scale to Teach About Sexual Orientation by Bobbi Keppel and Alan Hamilton are two web pages explaining the Klein Sexual Orientation Grid, which was developed ...
79. Humor Links (http://www.queerbychoice.com/humorlinks.html)
Humor Links Born Republican? by Daniel Mendelsohn, from the New York Times Op-Ed page, July 26, 1993. Psychologists and psychoanalysts have long believed that Republicans' unnatural and frequently unconstitutional tendencies result from unhealthy family ...
80. Excerpts from PFLAG President Arnold Drake's Inaugural Speech (http://www.queerbychoice.com/drakespeech.html)
The Inaugural Speech of Dr. Arnold Drake, PFLAG National President On October 28, 2000, PFLAG convened for its National Annual Meeting in Portland, Oregon, and inaugurated Dr. Arnold Drake as its new National President. This meeting came after over a yea...
81. David Urquhart (http://www.queerbychoice.com/david_u.html)
David Urquhart Born: April 3, 1939 Current Residence: Sydney, Australia 10/23/00: I am a new member and very glad I found you all. I don't remember not being homosexual, which doesn't mean I think I was born gay. It just means that I mostly care about wh...
82. What is an "indirect choice"? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/indirectchoice.html)
What is an indirect choice ? It's relatively uncommon, even among people who consider themselves queer by choice, for people to be able to point to a particular time in their life when they consciously decided, I want to be queer. Although such direct ch...
83. Brian Fairbanks (http://www.queerbychoice.com/brian.html)
Brian Fairbanks Internet Handle: bwaynef Current Residence: Ohio, USA 12/8/00: Queer by Choice! I love it! I don't rule out the possibility that some queers are queer due to biology. I may be one of them. However, almost anyone can pretend to be straight...
84. Quotes on the Experience of Choosing to Be Queer (http://www.queerbychoice.com/experiquotes.html)
Quotes on the Personal Experience of Choice [A woman on a panel said she chose to be a lesbian] and the audience was just going crazy! What does this mean? and Well, do you still have an attraction to men? And she said, No, I don't. And they said, But th...
85. Ina Tenkiller (http://www.queerbychoice.com/ina.html)
ina tenkiller 9/13/00: hi everybody on the queerchoice list i am newwww! :D nice to meet you all my name is ina. okay i haven't met any of you yet BUT i am very interested in hearing from you all the same. i'm currently *attempting* to write a piece on q...
86. What is a "direct choice"? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/directchoice.html)
What is a direct choice ? A direct choice is when a person consciously decides, I want to be queer and then becomes queer. For further discussion of direct and free choices versus indirect and un-free choices, try The Process of Choosing: A Conversation ...
87. PFLAG Position Statement (http://www.queerbychoice.com/position1.html)
PFLAG National Position Statement on Choice This statement denying the possibility of choice was officially repealed on October 28, 2000, as a result of over a year of intensive email correspondence between Gayle Madwin and Frank Aqueno of Queerchoice an...
88. For Women Attracted to Multiple Sexes (http://www.queerbychoice.com/wom2mult.html)
For Women Attracted to Multiple Sexes Byke (Contraction of Bi and Dyke) Double-life woman (Usually implies a married woman who has sex with women and hides this fact from her husband) Uranodioningin (Invented by Karl Heinrich Ulrichs in the mid-1800s; me...
89. Myths About Queer by Choice People (http://www.queerbychoice.com/myths.html)
Myths About Queer by Choice People In our efforts to raise awareness of queer by choice issues, we've found a number of recurring wrong assumptions about what queer by choice people are usually like. We've put together the list below to try to correct th...
90. Queer by Choice Links (http://www.queerbychoice.com/choicelinks.html)
Choice Links Choosing to Be Gay by Todd VerBeek, from Network News: The Newsletter of the Lesbian Gay Community Network of Western Michigan, November 1992. Each of them has made a . . . (dare I say it?) choice about their sexuality. For that matter, so h...
91. You mean some people can just look at someone and decide whether to be attracted to them? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/lookat.html)
You mean some people can just look at someone and decide whether to be attracted to them? That's not exactly the kind of choice we mean. Here's another way of looking at it: We might envision the erotic potential we're born with as a shapeless mass of wa...
92. Are You a Genuine Queer? Palmistry and Other Highly Scientific Modern Research (http://www.queerbychoice.com/palmistry.html)
Are You a Genuine Queer? Palmistry and Other Highly Scientific Modern Research So, you think you're queer? That's probably what your mother said when she opened your closet door and accidentally stumbled onto your feather boa. Think?? you demanded haught...
93. Hasn't queerness been proven to be genetic? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/provengenetic.html)
Hasn't queerness been proven to be genetic? First of all, no professional scientist in the last 40 years has even claimed to have found any evidence that queerness is always genetic in all cases. Even the highly publicized identical twin studies by Micha...
94. Ramki Ramakrishnan (http://www.queerbychoice.com/ramki.html)
Ramki Ramakrishnan Current Residence: Austin, Texas 12/28/00: I'm a biologist interested in ecology, behavior and conservation. I am also involved with activism around eliminating racism and gender-based prejudice (sexism, homophobia, biphobia, transphob...
95. For People Attracted to Women (http://www.queerbychoice.com/women.html)
For People Attracted to Women Androminetophile (Attracted to women who dress as men) Feminosexual Gynophile Gynosexual Gynotrope Korophile (Greek for girl-lover ) Shesexual Woman-lover See also: For women attracted to women For men attracted to women For...
96. PFLAG Chapters' Community Projects (http://www.queerbychoice.com/unsafeprojects.html)
PFLAG Chapters' Community Projects Imagine that you firmly believe you were born gay, and one day you're driving down the freeway that happens to be the same one that both your parents take to and from work every day, and you're contemplating how to come...
97. Feedback (http://www.queerbychoice.com/feedback.html)
Feedback Are you queer by choice? yes no maybe a little bit Do you believe others can be queer by choice? yes no maybe a little bit Before joining this list, had you ever heard of others saying they were queer by choice and proud of it? yes no maybe What...
98. Instructions for #QueerByChoice IRC on DALNet (http://www.queerbychoice.com/irchat.html)
Instructions for #QueerByChoice IRC on DALNet Download a free Internet Relay Chat program such as mIRC, or MS Chat. Log on to any DALNet server. Find the chatroom #QueerByChoice. You can chat there at any time, but you'll have a much better chance of oth...
99. N. R. Mohan (http://www.queerbychoice.com/mohan.html)
N. R. Mohan Born: 1974 Current residence: Bangalore, India 6/14/99: My name is Mohan, and am male, 25 and am right now in Bangalore , studying. I came out to a few friends of mine a couple of months ago till which I was well and truly in the closet (I kn...
100. Our Side of the Story (http://www.queerbychoice.com/ourside.html)
Our Side of the Story On August 22, 2000, Kirsten Kingdon, Executive Director of PFLAG National, sent out a letter to all of the PFLAG chapters which made a number of accusations against Queer By Choice activists and primarily against me, Gayle Madwin, r...
101. Transgender Links (http://www.queerbychoice.com/translinks.html)
Transgender Links I Am An Intentional Mutation by FTM transsexual artist Del LaGrace Volcano, from The Body Politic, No. 5. I am specifically something else, an intentional mutation of male and female, an emulation of incorporation that equals what, for l...
102. JoannaSatana (http://www.queerbychoice.com/joanna.html)
Joanna Satana Nicknames: Jo,Josie,Nanners,Mama,Shifty Mama,Doll,Dolly Jo,Joey,I could go on... Born: December 1, 1968 Current residence: Dullass, TeXXX-ass, a.k.a. Dallas, Texas, USA 5/17/99: I am called JoannaSatana.......I actually consider myself to b...
103. Queer by Choice Book List (http://www.queerbychoice.com/choicebooks.html)
Choice Book ListContents Miscellaneous Books That Mention Choice Critiques of Gay Gene Studies Social Constructionist History Queer Theory Lesbian-Feminism Birth of the Queer by Choice Movement Miscellaneous Books That Mention Choice Vera Whisman: Queer b...
104. How Do Scientists Define Who Is Queer? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/definequeer.html)
How Do Scientists Define Who Is Queer? Queerness is a phenomenon that's notoriously difficult to define many people spend years debating over how to define their own sexual preference, and it's common for people of all ages to change their minds and rede...
105. Other Queer by Choice Related Links (http://www.queerbychoice.com/misclinks.html)
Other Related Links Bonobo Sex and Society: The Behavior of a Close Relative Challenges Assumptions About Male Supremacy in Human Evolution by Frans B. M. de Waal, Scientific American, pp. 82-88, March 1995. This article's subtitle does not adequately des...
106. Queer Recruitment Center (http://www.queerbychoice.com/recruit.html)
Queer Recruitment Center To say that heterosexuals who accuse queers of recruitment are being hypocritical is an understatement. From the moment we're born, we're assigned a gender role and taught that we will conform to that gender role and grow up to m...
107. "Gay Gene" Critique Quotes (http://www.queerbychoice.com/gaygenequotes.html)
Gay Gene Critique Quotes To date, no researcher has claimed that genes can determine sexual orientation. At best, researchers believe that there may be a genetic component. No human behavior, let alone sexual behavior, has been connected to genetic marke...
108. Pekky (http://www.queerbychoice.com/pekky.html)
Pekky Nicknames: djpekky, StrangePekky Born: May 21, 1979 in Venezuela (One day before Morrissey's 20th B-day [lol]) Current Residence: Columbia, South Carolina, USA 2/10/01: I think everyone is bisexual, or has that potential. However, I am not that rad...
109. Quotes on the Cultural Implications of Choice (http://www.queerbychoice.com/impliquotes.html)
Quotes on the Cultural Implications of Choice Make no mistake about it. It is more destructive to homosexuals to be considered 'sick' than simply 'bad.' To be pitied is weakening; to be disliked often rallies defenses. Well-wisher, letter to the editor o...
110. For Transwomen (http://www.queerbychoice.com/transwomen.html)
For Transwomen Chick with dick (For non-op and pre-op transwomen who are comfortable calling their sex organs by the male name for them) Drag queen Eonist (After the Chevalière d'Eon, a 19th century male-born person who wore male clothes in order to pass...
111. PFLAG & Queer by Choice: Building a Safe Environment for Our Parents to Learn About Our Choices (http://www.queerbychoice.com/pflag.html)
PFLAG Queer by Choice: Building a Safe Environment for Our Parents to Learn About Our Choices People who consider our queerness a healthy choice often feel that the proper way for our parents to respond when we come out to them would be to heartily congr...
112. For Men Attracted to Multiple Sexes (http://www.queerbychoice.com/men2mult.html)
For Men Attracted to Multiple Sexes Double-life man (Usually implies a married man who has sex with men and hides this fact from his wife) Mayate (Mexican word for a straight-acting bisexual man who is accepted by the heterosexual mainstream society) Ura...
113. Unsafe PFLAG Chapters' Recommended Books (http://www.queerbychoice.com/unsafebooks.html)
PFLAG Chapters' Recommended Books Imagine that you firmly believe you were born gay, and you've just come out to them. You recommend your local PFLAG chapter to them, and after a few weeks of resistance they finally agree to go. So this evening, they com...
114. Some Safe Link Suggestions (http://www.queerbychoice.com/safesuggestions.html)
Suggestions for Safer Books and Links We've noticed that many PFLAG chapters have pages full of recommended books and links that rely heavily on books and websites declaring that sexual orientation is not a choice, and we understand that it may be diffic...
115. Moira Adams (http://www.queerbychoice.com/moira.html)
Moira Adams Nickname: kaninchen Current Residence: Dallas, Texas, USA 10/11/01: Moira was born (alas) Martin, in the Year of the Rat. For most of her life, so far, she tried to live as the boy her chromosomes and genitals and family said she should be, a...
116. Some Labels to Choose From (http://www.queerbychoice.com/labels.html)
Some Labels to Choose From Few people would deny that labels can be dangerous when used without good intentions and careful consideration. Yet after all, as explained on our Reasons to Choose or Not Choose a Label page, labels are only words and words wh...
117. Gregory Morisse (http://www.queerbychoice.com/gregory.html)
Gregory Morisse Born: June 30 Current Residence: Boston, Massachusetts, USA 7/3/00: I am a skeptic, a scientist, a person of faith, an activist and a person of experience. I try to blend the theory of a concept with a practical application to my life. Th...
118. The Queerchoice Mailing List: Member Profiles (http://www.queerbychoice.com/profiles.html)
The Queerchoice Mailing List was founded by Gayle Madwin on May 13, 1999, and we currently have about 150 members. The profiles below contain selections of quotes from some of us who wished to introduce ourselves. All the different members of this mailin...
119. For Gender Conforming People (http://www.queerbychoice.com/genderconform.html)
For Genderconforming People Homogendered Homovestite ( A person who obsessively, compulsively and neurotically wears the clothing of zir own sex. Raphael Carter's Androgyny RAQ) Mundane ( Freaking the mundanes is a semi-common phrase from tranny slang) S...
120. Could you choose to turn hetero again if you wanted to? (http://www.queerbychoice.com/turnhetero.html)
Could you choose to turn hetero if you wanted to? Saying that people can choose to become queer does not necessarily imply that people can also choose to become hetero. It might be that in a society where girls and boys are raised to have so little in co...
121. Tips for Talking About Ex-Gays (http://www.queerbychoice.com/exgays.html)
How to Warn About Ex-Gay Ministries Without Offending Queer by Choice People Most gay people who attempt to become heterosexual fail, and a great many gay people feel that their attempts caused them a lot of unnecessary emotional stress. These are establ...
122. Kevin (http://www.queerbychoice.com/kevin.html)
Kevin Current Residence: San Francisco Bay Area, California, USA 8/8/01: I have now been on this Queer-by-Choice mailing list for a couple of years or so, and have only posted a few times. However this list has served as an invaluable resource for me. A ...
123. For People Attracted to Multiple Sexes (http://www.queerbychoice.com/multiple.html)
For People Attracted to Multiple Sexes AC/DC Ace-deuce All-rounder Ambidextrous Ambisextrous Ambisexual AM/FM Bi Biaxial (Literally: having two axes ) Bi-bi baby Bicameral (Literally: having two legislative chambers ) Bicoastal (Literally: relating to tw...
124. tom aitken (http://www.queerbychoice.com/tom.html)
tom aitken President of PFLAG Hilo Born: 1949 Current Residence: Pahoa, Hawai'i, USA I can't speak for other people. The way I address the nature/nurture/choice issue is to minimize the question. After all, whether or not homosexuality is a choice pales ...
125. For Miscellaneous People (http://www.queerbychoice.com/miscellaneous.html)
For Miscellaneous People ______sexual (Insert name of person you're attracted to: e.g., Davidsexual, Amandasexual, et cetera) Androgynophile Androgynosexual Androgynotrope Asexual Aspiring queer Autosexual (Relating sexually to oneself) Contingent invert...
126. For Men Attracted to Men (http://www.queerbychoice.com/men2men.html)
For Men Attracted to Men Abodi (African-American term) Angel Angelina Angel food Aunt Fancy Auntie Em Bag Badger Basha (Zanzibar African term for a masculine, dominant gay male; also, any male authority figure; also, the king in a deck of cards) Batty-bo...
127. Timothy W. (http://www.queerbychoice.com/timothy.html)
Timothy W. Born: 1984 Current residence: Maple, Ontario, Canada 5/27/99: My name is Timothy and I'm a 14 year old gay male and proud of it even though I'm still in the closet. I used to be subscribed in 4gayteens but switched to here. I'm from Maple,Onta...
128. For Transmen (http://www.queerbychoice.com/transmen.html)
For Transmen Agule (Lugbara African word for a female-born priest who lives as a male) Brumaiwi (Atsugewi Native American word for transman ) Drag butch (Butch lesbian who passes as a heterosexual male on a regular basis) Drag king Ex-woman (Defines one'...
129. A Conversation Between Gayle Madwin and Frank Aqueno (http://www.queerbychoice.com/transcript.html)
The Process of Choosing A Conversation Between Gayle Madwin and Frank Aqueno The following is a rough transcript excerpted from a conversation on AOL Instant Messenger on July 2, 2000, between QueerByChoice.com owner Gayle Madwin (shown here as QBC 101) ...
130. John Hein (http://www.queerbychoice.com/john.html)
John Hein Editor, ScotsGay Magazine Current residence: Edinburgh, U.K. 5/20/99: I'm John Hein, editor of ScotsGay Magazine which can be found at http://www.scotsgay.co.uk/ Queer? Nah - more of an old fashioned vanilla pervert really! http://www.scotsgay....
